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Quiz or Biography?

For Tertia.  You should know that this freaky little quiz accurately figured out what my majors were way back when.  Three of them, at least.   Wonder if this is how the CEO at Radio Shack "crafted" his biography....

I also have to laugh at how far down on the list Biology showed up - given that it is such a major force in my life.

You scored as Sociology. You should be a Sociology major! Sociology 100% Anthropology 100% Psychology 92% English 83% Journalism 83% Mathematics 75% Linguistics 75% Engineering 67% Philosophy 58% Theater 50% Art 50% Chemistry 42% Biology 25% Dance 17% What is your Perfect Major? created with QuizFarm.com

Nope, not here.

For the poor soul who did this search, keep clicking the other links.   

My 11th grade Spanish teacher was a fan of Seneca, who said ""Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity."

As an infertile, however, I think Seneca was speaking complete bullshit.

Snarky, because I have an update

I wrote a note to admin before I wrote the post below.  Here is what it read:

I feel like such a low life, but I'm getting that, oh.no.I.might.burst feeling.  So, I'm going to write this to you, instead of in a thread on the vet board:

This person has posted on the general board a multitude of newbie type questions just about every day in her cycle.  Questions that most might post in a group forum like a cycle buddy area.  Now, because she's POAS & thinks it is a negative, she is here on the vet side.  I feel for her, after all, I've been there.  But this feels wrong.

I don't like to judge who is a vet, and who isn't.  I really don't.  But I just feel like she really is so new to this all, and is posting over here because she thinks it is a place to use the word bitch. 

Your pinned thread states pretty clearly that a vet is someone who has "multiple failed IVF/infertility cycles and/or losses and no longer finds the positive thoughts of the other IVF boards helpful."  I just don't see her in this light.  I've done it, I've judged her.

My two cents. Thanks.

This is the response I received:

I hear you. What to do? What to do?  Please report her again if she crosses the line. She seems to be posting on different boards and not exclusively on the vets board, but she sounds more frustrated than vetish.  Please, please don't burst yet (I would hate an ugly mess on your computer screen LOL), just report her post if it gets worse.

Take care, Admin

I really appreciated her taking the time to follow up with me.  I appreciated that she knew my computer is my life line to better experiences, and that she didn't want my bits and pieces to explode all over my beloved G4 Titanium Laptop. But damn, it would have made the insurance paperwork totally worth it to wind up with one with a bigger screen and a better case (piece of shit - titanium my ass).

The best part was that my fellow vets have left the post alone today & it will likely die a peaceful death. 

PLEASE.LET.IT.BE.TRUE.

PLEASE.

Snarky, because I can be

This is not going to be the nicest little post here.

First news:  I wrote the remainder of my in-law post, and now not all there?  What the fuck?  I'm going to finish it AGAIN tonight.

Secondly:  I have to bitch a bit. I'm chagrined and the way that I fell about something.

Here it goes:

I am, and have been a regular reader, and a some times poster on a popular IVF bb.  There is a "vet" section because it is needed.  A place where we vets can go for some peace & quiet from the hub-bub of the newbies.  Freedom from people who are confident that IVF will work the first time, who don't understand that it is possible to become bitter and jaded about the process.  People who throw things like "baby dust" around and call embryos their "embies," and who ask simple questions of the vets ALL the fucking time. 

The admin for the site has taken great pains (here, here and here) to ensure that the vets are free from having to edit themselves, and the vets have taken a kind of sisterhood stance & try to venture over to the general area to offer guidance every once in a while.  It is hard to do.  Some days I do it without issue.  Other days, I think, "ugh, you are 28, and you have 30 embryos on ice, and I'm having a problem identifying with the 'horrors' that you are complaining about." 

I welcome people who don't want the world to revolve around THEIR sob story into the vet world because if you've decided you are a vet, you know how hard the struggle really is, and I know what a shit feeling that is.  So many new vets don't get that their sob story is simply one of many.  Which is why going there can feel so good.  You know that you are in good company with these women.  They've all been dealt shit situations, and they are doing their best to get on with life.

I TRY to rise above the notion of pointing fingers at people on the general board, and most of the time I win my inner battle.  Sometimes I don't, and then I wind up regretting it.  My post will get pulled & I think to myself, "shit. I really went to a low place when I wrote that all down."  This is one of those times when I'd write this on the bb, and then go find my thread had been pulled.

Just yesterday I was mentioning to my husband about this one poster who has managed to make the general board her "go-to" place for EVERY little thing.  Things that would normally be posted in a cycle buddy arena, are constantly being started as individual threads on the general board. 

She joined in March of 2005, and already has over 300 posts, as member number 15,000+.  I'll put this in perspective for you.  I'm member 1318, and I have only 80+ posts to my name on this version of the site (it was relaunched just a few months ago, so all older posts aren't in the tally.) 

I've seen almost 14.5K users register since I joined up.  How depressing is that in itself? 

I've seen it all.  Nasty, funny, nice, touching, bitchy, whiny, you name it.

So, today I log on to my beloved vet area and what do I find?  This user.  A lovely little post named:  "Just wanted to b*tch!!!" 

Yeah?  Well, me too.

She's decided that since she has peed on a stick at 7 days post a 6 (yes SIX) day transfer and gotten a negative, she's now a vet. 

I feel for her.  I really do.  But please.  Please.  Find someplace else.  Please.   

I won't be able to read anymore if I have to see the likes of this cropping on the vet board.   The vet board has ebbs and flows.  People move on, people move in, people stay.  Sometimes I have to take a break because the character changes too much for me.  Then like minded people find their groove again, and it works for me.  But this?  I may have to leave.

SERIOUSLY.

For the record:  I think she has asked some good general questions, honestly I do.  But there is something about the frequency, exclamation points and the question marks.  I don't know.  It has simply rubbed me the wrong way. So many of the posts could be answered by using the search button.  Or by turning to Dr. Google.  

What do you think?  (You can read the headers below.)

Snarky bitch signing off for the night.