This is not going to be the nicest little post here.
First news: I wrote the remainder of my in-law post, and now not all there? What the fuck? I'm going to finish it AGAIN tonight.
Secondly: I have to bitch a bit. I'm chagrined and the way that I fell about something.
Here it goes:
I am, and have been a regular reader, and a some times poster on a popular IVF bb. There is a "vet" section because it is needed. A place where we vets can go for some peace & quiet from the hub-bub of the newbies. Freedom from people who are confident that IVF will work the first time, who don't understand that it is possible to become bitter and jaded about the process. People who throw things like "baby dust" around and call embryos their "embies," and who ask simple questions of the vets ALL the fucking time.
The admin for the site has taken great pains (here, here and here) to ensure that the vets are free from having to edit themselves, and the vets have taken a kind of sisterhood stance & try to venture over to the general area to offer guidance every once in a while. It is hard to do. Some days I do it without issue. Other days, I think, "ugh, you are 28, and you have 30 embryos on ice, and I'm having a problem identifying with the 'horrors' that you are complaining about."
I welcome people who don't want the world to revolve around THEIR sob story into the vet world because if you've decided you are a vet, you know how hard the struggle really is, and I know what a shit feeling that is. So many new vets don't get that their sob story is simply one of many. Which is why going there can feel so good. You know that you are in good company with these women. They've all been dealt shit situations, and they are doing their best to get on with life.
I TRY to rise above the notion of pointing fingers at people on the general board, and most of the time I win my inner battle. Sometimes I don't, and then I wind up regretting it. My post will get pulled & I think to myself, "shit. I really went to a low place when I wrote that all down." This is one of those times when I'd write this on the bb, and then go find my thread had been pulled.
Just yesterday I was mentioning to my husband about this one poster who has managed to make the general board her "go-to" place for EVERY little thing. Things that would normally be posted in a cycle buddy arena, are constantly being started as individual threads on the general board.
She joined in March of 2005, and already has over 300 posts, as member number 15,000+. I'll put this in perspective for you. I'm member 1318, and I have only 80+ posts to my name on this version of the site (it was relaunched just a few months ago, so all older posts aren't in the tally.)
I've seen almost 14.5K users register since I joined up. How depressing is that in itself?
I've seen it all. Nasty, funny, nice, touching, bitchy, whiny, you name it.
So, today I log on to my beloved vet area and what do I find? This user. A lovely little post named: "Just wanted to b*tch!!!"
Yeah? Well, me too.
She's decided that since she has peed on a stick at 7 days post a 6 (yes SIX) day transfer and gotten a negative, she's now a vet.
I feel for her. I really do. But please. Please. Find someplace else. Please.
I won't be able to read anymore if I have to see the likes of this cropping on the vet board. The vet board has ebbs and flows. People move on, people move in, people stay. Sometimes I have to take a break because the character changes too much for me. Then like minded people find their groove again, and it works for me. But this? I may have to leave.
SERIOUSLY.
For the record: I think she has asked some good general questions, honestly I do. But
there is something about the frequency, exclamation points and the question marks. I don't know. It has simply rubbed me the wrong way.
So many of the posts could be answered by using the search button. Or by turning to Dr. Google.
What do you think? (You can read the headers below.)
Snarky bitch signing off for the night.