I realize that woman who pursue surrogacy are in the teeny-tiny (very technical term, sorry) minority of IF women. I am interested, however, in knowing whether any of you (yourselves or via friends that you could point my way) could help me out.
My surrogate-to-be and I have ironed out 99 percent of our big and small points, and we are going to have to have attorneys get involved (by nature of our partnership) to draw up and approve our "agreement" from her perspective and from mine. What I would like to do, however, is minimize the time that we invest in the surrogacy-attorney part of our fiscal venture.
Meaning, money that would unnecessarily go to an attorney would instead go to my surrogate-to-be, and to stim cycles/meds for me.
I have that lucky double-whammy, poor response AND (yay!) a crap uterus. So, I'm thinking that it will be more than one stim cycle to get anything with which we might actually be able to try a surrogacy
So, with the idea that we are not foregoing attorneys, but wanting to make sure we can reduce the number of "well, what about this?" and "let's call her attorney" situations, it would be wonderful if we could borrow someone else's homework and copy it, replacing the pertinent points that we have hammered out together already. Then we could walk into above mentioned attorney's offices and say, "Please review this, and make certain it is valid in the appropriate states." as opposed to "Please draw this up for us."
I'm perfectly thrilled to receive crossed out redacted examples, I don't need to see the names or the amounts or anything, just the language. And we all know that the more homework to copy from means a more better grade for us. (Kidding!) Well, kind of....
Thanks to anyone who might read this and help.
PS - I've seen "sample" contracts from the internets that are very boiler-plate, but I'm worried that they aren't too real world.
Congratulations on this step forward in your quest. I look forward to hearing all about your surrogate. I hope she's a "Sarah".
Luv ya Boulder!
Posted by: Lala | Wednesday, September 21, 2005 at 03:53 PM
Twat! Nonchalantly mentioning a surrogate as though you're just continuing a conversation you started not too long ago.
THIS IS HUMUNGOUS! I am so excited for you! I hope she's a Sarah as well, and that you'll keep us updated. And I hope you get your homework help.
Posted by: Lioness | Friday, September 23, 2005 at 09:47 AM
Seriously - you're trying to slide that piece of information in like a bad prom date!
I have no helpful information for you, but I'm watching your every move for future use in case my uterus is now crap.
Posted by: Julia | Sunday, September 25, 2005 at 02:13 PM
no help here but just wanted to say BEST OF LUCK!!!
dawn in ky
Posted by: dawn | Wednesday, September 28, 2005 at 06:19 PM
Boulder, you'd better update soon. Don't make me resort to postal violence.
Posted by: Lioness | Monday, October 10, 2005 at 07:55 AM
yikes! I am so excited for you. No help with the legal stuff. sorry.
Posted by: Amber | Friday, October 14, 2005 at 05:47 PM
Bouuuuldeeeeeer!!!
Yoooohoooooooooooooooo!!!!
HULLOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
Nu? Nu? NU? Please update!
Posted by: Lioness | Sunday, November 13, 2005 at 07:08 AM
Boulder, I am new to your blog, but I would be happy to send you a copy of my GC contract if you'd like. I can send it snail, or, if I can find my scanner software and reload it to my new hard drive email a PDF to you. Just email me. GL!
Posted by: Lynnette | Saturday, December 17, 2005 at 07:59 AM
I just noticed the date on this post. You probably figured out your contract, months ago. Oops!
Posted by: Lynnette | Saturday, December 17, 2005 at 08:03 AM